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Obedience or Freedom? Take Your Pick.


Definition of Obedience:  Compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another’s authority.


Obedience demands that we close our eyes, ears and especially our heart to do what somebody else wants. 


Obedience should not seem normal to us. Obedience holds a beautiful soul under water until it cries uncle. 


Thinking that obedience is a good thing presupposes that the people we obey have a higher knowledge, when in fact, they often do not. No one else knows you, why you came here, or what you came here to do. Only you do.


Life is too short to figure out how to please others and yourself, so pick one.


You simply can’t change yourself in enough ways to make the fickle folks around you happy.

Give it up.  It’s a lose-lose proposition.

Do what you need to do and give others the golden opportunity to get over themselves.


Most everybody alive has been trained away from who they are.    

Be quiet.  Do this.  Don’t do that.  Color inside the lines.  This is right.  That is wrong. 

But you can recover yourself today in this small moment. 


Did your young daily life revolve around approval from others?   Let it go…


When your freedom is calling you, run, baby run!  Speak, baby, speak!  Stand up baby, stand up!


“Art wasn’t accepted in my family, so I went to medical school.” 

“Growing up, I wanted to play piano and sing, but I was not allowed to go near my mother’s piano.  She was a well-known performer, sang with the big bands of her era and lived quite the life.  She made it clear there was room for only one musician in the family, so I took a different path.  I’m in my sixties now and I’ve discovered I’m a jazz singer.  I also play classical piano. I’ve got a lot of music in me!”

“I wanted to go to cooking school, but my father talked me out of it and added a little pressure for good measure.  He wouldn’t pay my college tuition unless I went to Ag College.” 


Once a dream is smashed, it can take even the brightest person years to circle back around and give it another go. 

But it’s never too late!


Don’t fall for media fervor ’cause that’s just another form of obedience. 

Stay out of the word swirl.  It messes with you.  Turn off the radio.  Put down the foreboding newspaper article.  Click off the TV. The nightly news will happily hand you a head full of gory details you don’t need.

Keep your mind clear to do what you came here to do. 



Now reach for your wings. Definition of Freedom:  the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. 

That’s more like it! 

goldfish jumping out of the water

I think I’ll try something new…



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Intimacy Is Everywhere

Hello Everyone,

Today, intimacy.

Love to you all,

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Friday Love: Bam! Gate Breaking, Anyone?

Good Friday, Everyone!

Today, I’m sharing a story about how I accidentally accomplished something on my bucket list. I ran through an exit gate while looking the other way. The hood of my car is scratched up, and one windshield wiper is a mess, but let’s have a good laugh about how we never expect what “getting what we want” includes!

Let me know if you relate…

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Enough with the Name-Calling

It seems to be a growing fad these days to call someone a narcissist, or declare they are toxic.
Political name-calling is similar—we assign politicians and voters to categories, and brush them off as if they are unintelligent, inferior, or even worthless.
By labeling others, we miss their humanity. We gloss over their struggle, their best effort at dealing with life. We dismiss them.
We do to them what we believe they are doing to others.
Look past a label, and in the soft light of day, there stands a person like you or like me, coping as best they can. At the end of the day, no friend, parent, or lover making conscious choices intends to be mean, or to ignore, or to embellish. There is always more to the story.
If we label others, then for sure we label ourselves. We trap ourselves into believing we are less than. Or not enough. Or we don’t give ourselves the time and forgiveness to work through our “stuff.” Maybe, if we stopped accusing others of narcissism, we could forgive ourselves for those moments when we were narrow-minded, inconsiderate, or afraid.
When it comes to labels, nobody wins.
So, my dear people, I suggest we peer a little deeper into ourselves to investigate a need to separate ourselves from others by tacking them with a label filled with disdain or scorn.
It is my wish that you view this video and take it to heart.
Much love,

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