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What Makes Your Mind Go Quiet?

Mist and Color

Before bed last night, Eric invited me to watch a segment of a TV show which documented how Mountain Lions (aka Pumas, Cougars) live in and around human populations quite well.  One surprising location is the Santa Monica Mountains in the middle of Los Angeles.  The big cats manage to cover a large territory and remain invisible — most of the time! 

But the backyard surveillance cameras of hillside homes, as well as cameras placed in the cats’ habitat by researchers, do catch some amazing shots of wild visitors.  In addition to Mountain Lions, the cameras captured great images of Coyotes, Foxes and even Bears!  My favorite was a mother Mountain Lion who plopped herself right down in front of a camera to nurse her two cubs.

As I slipped under the covers for a heavenly night of rest, I guess I had animals on my mind.  And when I watch a show about animals or pet my cat or dog, I notice my mind calms.  The same slow-down effect happens for me around elephants or giraffes (so big, so awesome) or while swimming with dolphins in Florida (playful and fun).

So, last night I had a vivid dream, and in the dream, around an animal, my mind went still!  I was standing outdoors, and noticed the unmistakable sound of a hummingbird hovering.  I turned to see where he was, and when I found him, he came closer.  Much to my surprise, he landed on my right arm, which I had raised to brush the hair out of my face.  Where he perched was near my wrist (close to my face!) and I was so thrilled to see him so clearly and intimately.  I think I held my breath at first, but he appeared to be quite at home sitting there on my arm, as if to say, “Hey, no big deal.  I do this sort of thing every day.  I’m used to it!”  I relaxed.  His feathers were bright — some were neon — and they did not lay flat.  He was clearly dressed more for self-expression than for perfect aerodynamics!  He looked pretty wild and fun!   

But the most unusual thing about this bird was that his eyes were large for his tiny body and when I peered at him, he blinked and looked right back, and my mind stopped.  I remember that feeling so clearly.  We looked at each other for quite a while, just being together in the moment.  It was wonder-ful, as in “full of wonder…”

When it comes to slowing the mind, what practices take you out of your head?  Racquetball?  Running?  Meditation?  Singing?  Walking in nature?

Writing is another practice that, for some people, stops mind chatter.  For me it does.  Hours go by and I have to set a timer to remind myself to get up and walk around.  Next week, I’ll give you an update on the book I’m writing about Relationships! 

In the meantime, imagine a big-eyed hummingbird perched on your finger, and have a little meditation with him.  Or something – or nothing!  However you do it, take time to think about nothing today. 

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Intimacy Is Everywhere

Hello Everyone,

Today, intimacy.

Love to you all,

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Friday Love: Bam! Gate Breaking, Anyone?

Good Friday, Everyone!

Today, I’m sharing a story about how I accidentally accomplished something on my bucket list. I ran through an exit gate while looking the other way. The hood of my car is scratched up, and one windshield wiper is a mess, but let’s have a good laugh about how we never expect what “getting what we want” includes!

Let me know if you relate…

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Enough with the Name-Calling

It seems to be a growing fad these days to call someone a narcissist, or declare they are toxic.
Political name-calling is similar—we assign politicians and voters to categories, and brush them off as if they are unintelligent, inferior, or even worthless.
By labeling others, we miss their humanity. We gloss over their struggle, their best effort at dealing with life. We dismiss them.
We do to them what we believe they are doing to others.
Look past a label, and in the soft light of day, there stands a person like you or like me, coping as best they can. At the end of the day, no friend, parent, or lover making conscious choices intends to be mean, or to ignore, or to embellish. There is always more to the story.
If we label others, then for sure we label ourselves. We trap ourselves into believing we are less than. Or not enough. Or we don’t give ourselves the time and forgiveness to work through our “stuff.” Maybe, if we stopped accusing others of narcissism, we could forgive ourselves for those moments when we were narrow-minded, inconsiderate, or afraid.
When it comes to labels, nobody wins.
So, my dear people, I suggest we peer a little deeper into ourselves to investigate a need to separate ourselves from others by tacking them with a label filled with disdain or scorn.
It is my wish that you view this video and take it to heart.
Much love,

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