The Power of Four

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In my life, I have three favorite women and we meet regularly. It’s something I look forward to with a smile on my face way before I get to wherever we are meeting.  Connecting with a group of women and staying connected has never really happened to me before — not sure why— but I’m glad it’s happening now.

So there are four of us.  FourAccording to my cursory research, the symbolic meaning of the number four deals with stability and groundedness and represents solidity, calmness and home.  To realize the power of four, think of the four seasons, four directions, or four elements (air, earth, fire, water).  Being in this supportive group of four encourages me to explore my roots.  I feel stronger and more centered after leaving this fabulous group of women, I know myself better, whether or not I have been the center of conversation, and I am accepted no matter what is going on with me.

We meet in places where it’s quiet enough to talk.  We don’t gossip. We don’t figure each other out or psycho-analyze.  We ask a lot of questions and listen to each other.  And laugh.  Oh, do we laugh.   To see one’s self reflected in the eyes of three others who love you is surprising — in a good way! Besides, laughter is the best ab workout around.

More evidence that four is a great and stable thing — you can build a pyramid on a base of four.  With this group of four, I feel like we can rise above pyramid3anything, and get a pyramidal (!) perspective on life while standing on solid ground.

And what a view that is. Thanks, girls.  Here’s to more groups of four!  Let me know if you have one, or when you build one and write me about it.  I’d love to hear all about it.

Four Your Joy,

Terri

 

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