SUMMER SHORTS: What You Don’t Realize About Change Can Slow You Down.

Summer Shorts is a weekly short-read in honor of the season, to convey ideas about relationships and life in the blink of an eye.

Deliberate change requires more than a sprinkle of our attention.

Making changes asks for all of who we are, everything we’ve got. We must pay attention. We must do things we’ve never done before. We must wake up where we were once asleep.

Making a change changes every part of us.

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An Evening of Mystical Poetry

I’m so happy to let you know that I’ll be partnering with local poet and photographer Tracey Schmidt to present an evening of Mystical Poetry. Tracey and I were introduced to each other by Jean Cassidy of She thought we might enjoy working together — and we do!

Date and Time: September 20, Friday evening, 7:30 to 9:30 pm. $15 love offering.

Location: Unity of The Blue Ridge, 2041 Fanning Bridge Rd, Mills River, NC 28759. 828-891-8700.

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SUMMER SHORTS: Do This In A Relationship. It Makes A Difference.

Summer Shorts is a weekly short-read in honor of the season, to convey ideas about relationships and life in the blink of an eye.

There are days when things with your partner seem a little rough around the edges. There are moments or hours when you wonder why you’re in the relationship to begin with. You might even fantasize about the benefits of walking away. You entertain the idea briefly, then continue as usual.

Even today, before leaving for work, the quick conversation with your partner as you picked up your keys, water bottle and bag did not go well. There was an uncomfortable disagreement, and no time to work it out.

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SUMMER SHORTS: The Great Bell Chant.

Summer Shorts is a weekly short-read in honor of the season, to convey ideas about relationships and life in the blink of an eye.

Most of us have go-to ways of calming and centering ourselves. We meditate, walk in nature, enjoy natural beauty. We listen to something that soothes the busy mind, the weary body, and the soul in need of encouragement.

Here’s a beautiful meditation known as The Great Bell Chant (The End of Suffering) to add to your collection. It is truly one of the most beautiful poem-prayers I’ve ever heard, read by Thich Nhat Hanh, chanted by brother Phap Niem.

Thich Nhat Hanh is a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist. He has spent most of his later life in the Plum Village Monastery in southwest France. He’s 92 years old.

The creators of the soundtrack for The Great Bell Chant were Gary Malkin and collaborator Michael Stillwater. The audio comes from a CD/book released in 2006 called Graceful Passages: A Companion for Living and Dying.

Here are the lyrics of the poem being read.

May the sound of this bell penetrate deep into the cosmos.
Even in the darkest spots, living beings are able to hear it clearly
so that all suffering in them ceases.
Understanding comes to their heart
and they transcend the path of sorrow and death.
. . .
The universal dharma door is already open.
The sound of the rising tide is heard clearly.
The miracle happens: a beautiful child appears in the heart of a lotus flower.
One single drop of this compassionate water is enough
to bring back the refreshing spring to our mountains and rivers.
. . .
Listening to the bell, I feel the afflictions in me begin to dissolve.
My mind calm, my body relaxed,
a smile is born on my lips.
Following the sound of the bell
my breath brings me back to the safe island of mindfulness.
In the garden of my heart, the flowers of peace bloom beautifully.

Have a blessed day.

Image by Eric Michelat from Pixabay

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SUMMER SHORTS: “All of Me Loves All of You”

Summer Shorts is a weekly short-read in honor of the season, to convey ideas about relationships and life in the blink of an eye.

If you have been thoroughly loved, you know that your partner is often (in the words of singer John Legend), more accepting of “all your perfect imperfections” than you are.

My husband, Eric, when he was alive and well, was really good at approving of “my perfect imperfections,” and “all your curves and all your edges” (also John Legend’s words).

Once, in fact, Eric sat me down to settle the subject forever and ever. He gave me a detailed, complete run-down of all the ways he liked me physically. And he told me how much he admired me, was proud of me, and believed in me. He hoped his support of me was clear, and that it made a difference.

He also told me he enjoyed how I looked first thing in the morning, and how he never cared one whit about the clothes I wore.

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Intimacy Is Everywhere

Hello Everyone,

Today, intimacy.

Love to you all,

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Friday Love: Bam! Gate Breaking, Anyone?

Good Friday, Everyone!

Today, I’m sharing a story about how I accidentally accomplished something on my bucket list. I ran through an exit gate while looking the other way. The hood of my car is scratched up, and one windshield wiper is a mess, but let’s have a good laugh about how we never expect what “getting what we want” includes!

Let me know if you relate…

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Enough with the Name-Calling

It seems to be a growing fad these days to call someone a narcissist, or declare they are toxic.
Political name-calling is similar—we assign politicians and voters to categories, and brush them off as if they are unintelligent, inferior, or even worthless.
By labeling others, we miss their humanity. We gloss over their struggle, their best effort at dealing with life. We dismiss them.
We do to them what we believe they are doing to others.
Look past a label, and in the soft light of day, there stands a person like you or like me, coping as best they can. At the end of the day, no friend, parent, or lover making conscious choices intends to be mean, or to ignore, or to embellish. There is always more to the story.
If we label others, then for sure we label ourselves. We trap ourselves into believing we are less than. Or not enough. Or we don’t give ourselves the time and forgiveness to work through our “stuff.” Maybe, if we stopped accusing others of narcissism, we could forgive ourselves for those moments when we were narrow-minded, inconsiderate, or afraid.
When it comes to labels, nobody wins.
So, my dear people, I suggest we peer a little deeper into ourselves to investigate a need to separate ourselves from others by tacking them with a label filled with disdain or scorn.
It is my wish that you view this video and take it to heart.
Much love,

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