“Where There Is Hate, I May Bring Love”

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In light of recent events in my area of the country (and perhaps yours, too) I feel a strong personal inner call to extend love, be more loving, and think in loving ways about people who have committed unloving acts.

No one that I know ever repented for past ugly deeds, or lifted themselves up to a higher vibration because a whole lot of people hated them into loving.  I do not see people change because others rail against them.  Rarely do people understand the power of love because enough hate was aimed at them that they suddenly saw the light. 

We could be talking about a mass shooting, or great grizzly greed or what we consider to be an ugly or non-inclusive political viewpoint.  Or we could be talking about the now locally infamous coffee shop owners in Asheville, NC, who clearly have no idea who they are, let alone who women are.  Each situation reminds me that it’s a really good time to be wide-awake-aware of the power of love and the inspiring and uplifting cosmic flow-through available to all of us.

What do we want to create more of — hate or love?  Disapproval or acceptance?  Rejection or understanding?

Throwing myself out of love because someone else is out of love

yields yet another person who has fallen out of love. 

But, Hey, I’m Not Mother Teresa

I might say to myself, “I can’t help these people who have hurt others.”

I’m not Mother Teresa. 

I’m not Buddha. 

I’m not Jesus. 

Or am I? 

Maybe loving is simpler than we imagine.  Consider the following invitation from St. Francis of Assisi given by Mother Teresa on December 11, 1979 during her Nobel Peace Prize lecture:

“…where there is hatred, I may bring love; that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness; that, where there is discord, I may bring harmony; that, where there is error, I may bring truth; that, where there is doubt, I may bring faith; that, where there is despair, I may bring hope; that, where there are shadows, I may bring light; that, where there is sadness, I may bring joy.”  — quote provided by the Missionaries of Charity in Calcutta.

I love that the quote says, “I may bring love.”  It doesn’t ask the question “May I bring love?”  And it doesn’t say “I will” or “I must” or “I should.”

It simply invites us. ” I may bring love” opens the option.

Love Is Powerful

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”  Actually, who are you not to be?   … as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.  — Marianne Williamson

Dr. Hew Lin and the Practice of Ho’oponopono

Dr. Lin was assigned to a state hospital for the criminally insane, a place which housed murderers and rapists — people who had done truly brutal things.  Being employed at this facility was intense and dangerous.  Patients attacked staff nearly every day and nobody wanted to work there. 

When Dr. Hew Len was assigned to this hospital, instead of looking for ways to fix what was wrong with the patients, he began pondering the following question:  “What is out of alignment in me that I have attracted these people into my life?” 

He pored over one patient file at a time, reading the details of their crimes, and one by one, made peace within himself about what each person had done.  He didn’t judge or look for ways to correct the person.  He did not try to rehabilitate them.  In fact, he consciously expressed gratitude for the opportunity they provided him to examine himself. 

When he made peace with one person’s deeds, and with their life story, he closed that file and went on to the next one.  And then the next.  And the next.  It was a slow process. 

The most amazing part of the story is that Dr. Hew Lin never once visited the hospital or saw the patients.

Miraculous Changes

Startling changes occurred. 

Patients improved, for no apparent reason.  Some began to get off their medications.  Others stopped fighting.  The place got happier.  Patients began to wake up. 

It took about 4 years, but one by one, the patients were declared well enough to leave.  In fact, at the end of 4 years, there were two patients left.  They were transferred to another facility and the hospital was closed due to lack of business. 

When we change our perspective of the world around us, the world around us changes.  Light or dark?  Empty or full? Love or hate?  We get to choose what we see and what we experience.

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    Ellen Wollenberg

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    Great Job Terri That really made me think. I will be contemplating my own way of dealing with people that have problems!

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      Terri Crosby

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      Ellen, I so appreciate that you’ll be reflecting on your own way of responding. This is so important. Thank you!

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    shiner

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    This is a powerful message and one we can all use to hear on a regular basis. May I bring Love…

    Much appreciation

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      Terri Crosby

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      As always, Shiner, big hugs to you! Love, Terri

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    Barbara

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    Terri, St Francis’ powerful prayer is one I have memorized and say often. Because I believe that the divine is in all and everywhere, the only way to approach this world is with an open heart and love. No, I’m not perfect, and I still say “bad” things when I am cut off in traffic, etc., but I try to remind myself that I don’t know the circumstances of that driver’s life. Sometimes I am the guilty one, driving thoughtlessly or behaving in a self-absorbed way, but I try to forgive myself and move on in love. A friend’s cat was recently intentionally killed by a neighbor. I cannot comprehend what would motivate such an act, but I try to find peace in forgiveness (this is hard because I can imagine how devastated I would feel if it were my pet) but it is essential to maintaining a positive energy in the world. And I still feel deep compassion for my friend. Thanks for sharing this. Life is challenging enough without approaching it with negativity!

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      Terri Crosby

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      Thank you for sharing, Barbara. Love to you, Terri

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
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Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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