The Wisteria Effect — Under the Lavender Spell

Biltmore Wisteria 1I don’t know what it is about Wisteria.

Seeing it causes me to stop in my tracks every time. As in, “Wow…there is nothing more beautiful than this moment before me…” Wisteria makes me breathe IN.  I slow down. Then I stop. In my world, that’s the Wisteria Effect. Because Wisteria drips… …and drapes… …and bedazzles… … and because it’s lavishly, luxuriously lavender. Wisteria seems to be lit from within.  Maybe you, too, have noticed that its loveliness — its natural color and light — seem to say,    “Here’s my lavender heart, pouring out to you.” And there’s (yet) another thing. wisteria 1j longWisteria pours down, even as hundreds and hundreds of its tiny lavender petals lift up to the sky.  Even with all this lifting up, wisteria pours down, and down, and more down. Ahhhh.  Wisteria is a waterfall of uplifting reassurance that “down” can be a very good thing. And here’s a mystery for you… It’s SO airy.  How does it DO that? To look at this lavender wonder, it’s almost as if nothing-at-all is holding it together, yet there it is, all beautifully whimsical, petals practically perched in mid-air. To acquire such lightness of being, wisteria must have feathery, floaty ideas about itself,  don’t you think? It must have plenty of room for everything, it must breathe deeply, it must certainly have the ability to suspend thought and just BE.   All while dripping from a thick tree trunk, which is rooted down, down, down into mother earth. Maybe Wisteria is the perfect advice for humans.  Perhaps something like this. 1.  Don’t hold back on your natural self expression.  It’s a beautiful thing ’cause it’s YOU. And it is uplifting to those around you. 2.  Hang more.  :–) Chill out more.  Relax more. Never mind what you’re hanging ON.  You’re the centerpiece of that Italian sofa, that beach chair, that Porsche, that herd of muddy children you know. 3. Lavender is a beautiful color. But whatever your color is, wear it often. People will probably tell you that you’re glowing  — that you’re practically lit from within.

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    gita

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    Thank you! I love wisteria too.
    I also learned from experience in SC that it has amazing life force, which if not nurtured in a helpful direction can be a nuisance! Do you think that also might be said of us (wisteria people)? I love the way the Smithsonian in DC has set it where it can drape and flower, yet not overtake the whole mall! Maybe there it “blooms where it’s planted”? Thanks! Happy spring!

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    Ginna

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    Beautiful beyond words. One could live with wisteria happily forever!

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    Lynn Pentz

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    Quite magical this Wisteria Effect. Thank you for giving voice to this exquisite gift of Nature – flowing down like grace, lifting up all those who dare to notice. Like you, my friend, precious poet of the moment.

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
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Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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