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Creating Memorable Thanksgiving Conversations With Friends and Family

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For Thanksgiving week, we all deserve less to read and think about, because we’re all COOKING!

Aren’t we? 

(Maybe so, maybe not.)

Maybe we’re just eating!

In the spirit of “all things food” and this week of gratitude and full tummies, I’m referring you to an article that will surely bless you with ideas for creating memorable and happy conversations at your Thanksgiving table, should you be dining with, well, others.

Food52 is a site I frequent for cooking ideas, and they recently published this (I must say!) ELABORATE and lengthy article called “20+ Strategies for Avoiding (& Pivoting) Awkward Conversations.” 

Because the Thanksgiving table often includes an unusual array of participants, those you know well, and those you don’t (each group presenting its own challenges) this list of conversation-starter, conversation-maintainer questions could save you, should you need saving!

(Maybe cooking is easy for you, and the conversations not so much. )

Knowing how to head awkward conversations off at the pass is also a handy, “in your back pocket” skill, and these suggestions about how to pivot an awkward or unwanted conversation are mentioned in the main article.

The link will take you to the full article, but if you don’t have time for that, here’s the summary list of questions.

Food52’s Recommended Questions for Thanksgiving Tables Everywhere

Infinitely better than vague “How are you?” or “How’s life?,” these questions offer more direction without putting your talking buddy on the spot. (Ease into them: Best not to overwhelm someone with a “Tell me your hopes and dreams and the values you hold dearest to your heart” before finding out what they do for a living or where they live.)

“So, how’s life?”
—Not a question you want to answer

For total strangers

Early in the conversation:

What did you do last Thanksgiving? How have you spent the holiday in the past?
Where did you grow up?
What’s your favorite part of living in [insert city or town here]?
What do you do for a living and how did you get to that place?
What are your hobbies outside of work?

Later on:

What are you looking forward to in the next month?
Have you eaten at any good restaurants (or cooked anything delicious) lately?
What’s the last good book or article you read?
What are you doing for the holidays? Do you have any trips or activities planned?
What’s your best Thanksgiving memory (besides this one, talking to me, of course)?
When’s the last time you laughed really hard?
Where’s the best place you’ve traveled to?
If you could move to another city or country, where would you go?

For relatives who might as well be (or strangers you saw last year):

Last time I saw you, you were [insert craftily-researched or remembered fact here]. How’s that going?
Are you still at the same job? What’s your favorite part about it (or, what keeps you there)?
Remember the last time I saw you, when [insert fun memory here. Childhood memories are acceptable].
So you’re in [insert grade in school—again, research comes in handy]. What are you learning? What are your favorite and least favorite classes?
Are you working on any new projects in work, school, life? What are you proudest of?
Are you planning to buy any gifts for the holidays? Do you need help brainstorming?
What Thanksgiving food have you been looking forward to the most?
What’s the funniest thing your pet has been up to lately?
Did you hear about [uncontroversial, relatively well-known news story]?
What’s something you’d like to learn more about?

And, when I’m wrapped up in asking questions, I sometimes forget the even more important part: to listen to the answers. They’ll naturally lead to additional questions (and the foundation of “research” for next year’s encounter).

Plus, once I get the conversational ball rolling, maybe I won’t want the interaction—or the party—to end? On Thanksgiving, anything is possible.

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That’s all folks!

Have a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving week!

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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