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What If You Could Truly Erase Your Past And Start Fresh?

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Photo by Terri Crosby 2015.

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

It was an innocent, ordinary moment. 

I got in my car to head for the Unity Board Meeting, pulled out of the garage, and then paused at the top of my driveway to consult my GPS for an address.  I wanted to send a thank you note to local farmer Philip Whitaker for all the pumpkins and gourds he had donated for our Celebration Party on Sunday, Sept 27, and I knew his address was in my Garmin. 

I turned on my Garmin.  It asked me what language I preferred. 

“How odd,” I thought.  But I answered.

Then, really curious now about why that message would come up, I selected “Saved Addresses.” 

It said “no data available.”

Stunned, I looked up for a moment at the beautiful, tall trees in front of me.  “What is going on here?” I asked them.  But they said nothing.  They simply stood in perfect silent support of this moment.

It turns out there were only 3 addresses in my GPS: Garmin USA — 719 miles NW.  Garmin Europe 4022 miles NE.  And Garmin Asia 7987 miles NW. 

I touched the icon that says “Go Home” — and you know what?  It asked me where HOME was.

As I drove to the board meeting, the significance of all of this began to sink in.     

First, my navigational system didn’t crash, it simply reset itself by deleting my past. 

Which raises the question, “What if I really lived this way?”  What if I simply allowed myself to delete yesterday and operate as if every morning is a brand new life?

Second, according to my Garmin, I’ve never been anywhere at all!  And now, in this present moment, all I have to do is program where I want to go, and my history-free navigational system will take me there.  I have a clean slate from which to move forward — anywhere I choose to go.

The story gets even better…

That evening, on the way home from the board meeting, I stopped at the grocery store.  I’m in the “foils and plastic wrap” aisle and standing next to me is a man with a t-shirt that said something about trusting God.  I can only see his back.

But something about him seemed familiar, and slowly I thought, “No, it can’t be!”

But yes, it can be – indeed it was!

It was Philip Whitaker, the man whose address I had been looking for in my Garmin.  We talked, I was able to thank him for his generosity and for helping to make our Sunday celebration so colorful.  And yes, I got his address.

It seems that my guidance system is in perfect working order after all, and not only that, it received an upgrade!

 

 

 

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Spring Metamorphosis

Spring 2

Well, it is spring after all!  Am I shedding old skin, undergoing an inner housecleaning, blossoming — starting anew?

Is there a brand new person growing inside me?

Sure feels like it. In any case, it’s been a long time since we’ve spoken…

Perhaps I should I say it’s been months since my last confession.

Probably not, considering my fairly forthcoming nature — I’m sure I confessed yesterday, or maybe even this morning when I woke up.  I don’t mean apologize, I mean something else entirely, although confessionthere are quite a few finger-pointing, finger-wagging definitions for this idea of confession. One typical definition describes acknowledging or avowing a fault, crime, misdeed, weakness, etc. by way of revelation.  Pretty dramatic if you think about it. And besides, we can’t really “get it wrong.”  On any given day, we are doing our best in that moment, and that is anything but wrong.   Nevertheless, most references to  this word “confess” convey the idea of not wanting to hold some sort of wrongdoing secret within oneself. There is, however, a more life-giving, life-affirming definition a little further down the line, which is “to own or admit as true.”  Now there’s something to write home about! For me, here’s what’s true these days.

Being a truly Happy Cappy (Capricorn) in Spring is getting out the spade, the shovel, the hoe, and the hand trowel.  Right now I have about a bushel of marigold seeds from last years garden — need any?  Send me your address and I’ll send you a handful.

new shoots 2Cucumbers are up.  Yellow pear cherry tomatoes, and big ol’ Cherokee Purples.  Basil and spring salad greens, and sweet red Italian peppers are coming to life.  It’s all brand new growth. I can relate. So what’s going on inside me?  I don’t really know.  I can’t tell yet what I’m becoming.  I’m waiting to see what I grow into. What, you, too? Shall we keep each other posted?  It’s a deal. Continue Reading

Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

Image by Free-Photos from Pixabay

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