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May Your Holidays Be A Holy Adventure

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My friend and I are having a holy adventure as our husbands deal with physical challenges. We text back and forth, sometimes we talk. Mostly, we give encouragement to each other about this holy experience.

Are you having a holy adventure of some kind, an experience worthy of devotion, filled with divine learning? Is this moment a holy adventure? Will your home be brimming with holy adventure soon?

Here are some gentle thoughts about blending with the circumstances of your Holidays, and embracing the elements of your very own holy experience, whenever and however it comes.

Let others have their experience.

Don’t rescue them from their feelings, let feelings come to the surface. Let them be revealed to the person having them. You can’t change what’s happening with others, or what they are thinking or experiencing. Don’t get out your whisk broom and clean it up like it was never there. Let everything be what it is and show itself.

Give up seeking love and approval. girl-714212_640

Find the love that you are and feel that. Look from love at anything and everything. Whatever is in front of you is another version of love. See if you can find it and feel it. It’s like where’s Waldo, only it’s about love and goodness. “Only by seeking the truth within will you find the love you can never lose.” Byron Katie

Be mindful of the energy flowing out of you and pay less attention to energy coming from others.

If someone is upset, if they are having a holiday fit, it’s just that, it’s a fit. It’s not against you or about you. It’s what they are feeling, simple as that. Let it be, let it be, let it be.

Go easy on yourself and others.

Be nicer to yourself. Give yourself a break. Take the easy road. Make the meal with what you have on hand. Create a gift from your heart. Don’t sweep the floor. Getting the floor swept will not part the Red Sea, and no one will die if you don’t sweep. I promise you’re good either way. Lower your standards or ask for help.

Say less and do less about more things.

Use fewer words. Breathe more. Go slower. Let things unfold. Be who you are, which is simple love. Say what you mean from who you are, which requires no justification, no explaining. Be the still center.  This is good for you, and for everyone in your Holiday house. 

The whole world belongs to you.

The world is here for you. What is your guidance about how to be in this world of yours? Are you listening to that still, small voice inside? What is it saying?

 

 

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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