Speaking

Terri is available to speak at your event. Below are the most popular topics. Don’t see what you’re looking for? Just ask! Custom topics appropriate for your specific group can be arranged. 
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Couple’s Groups

Five Game-Changing Partnership Skills

Time and format for this information is customizable.

Do you have a lack of patience with certain people? Or difficulty in an intimate relationship, business partnership, or friendship?

These five game-changing skills are a foundation for creating healthy, ever-evolving partnerships with others. These skills are not casual, fleeting, or trendy. They have stood the test of time, yet they are not what many of us do.

In the beginning, learning the five skills often requires focused dedication and every available scrap of conscious attention. Practiced over time, the skills fold themselves into a way of relating that trades closed opinions for an open mind and heart. They trade reactivity for creativity, frustration for satisfaction.  These five core skills transform the way we relate.

Why Marriage Is An Unreasonable Undertaking

Time and format for this information is customizable.

The subject of getting along in intimate relationships benefits from a light-hearted approach.

This presentation is an easy-going look at why marriage fails, investigating such things as how we marry a  “right” person, who becomes a “wrong” person. Smiling more often about our flops might allow us to try new things from a less-burdened, more creative and truthful place.

Listeners receive do-ables that matter and that work, and are equipped with enough buoyant enthusiasm to inspire them to take on the practical aspects of loving another.

 What We Misunderstand about Being In Love

Time and format for this information is customizable.

We’ve been taught so much silliness about love, marriage and happily-ever-after. In fact, why not put a hand on our foreheads and declare, “Have mercy!”

What are the love ideas we’ve learned that are backwards, upside down and sideways? We’ll talk about the main culprits, especially those that cause really good people to live with bad feelings about the past, or a worrisome view of the future.

There’s no quick fix, but dissolving old dysfunctional standbys can propel us to new ways of relating that bring more joy.

Relationship Q & A

1-3 hrs.

Participants write questions on 3X5 cards and submit as they enter.  The questions collected prompt and guide this spontaneous talk.

In the advanced version, such as at a retreat, those who offer a question  work with me one-on-one in front of the room.  This is a deeply varied experience, rich with what matters most to participants.  This version has an element of risk, which is appropriate for participants who have established trust with each other.

For Churches:  Learning To Be The Way of God In Relationships

Relationships offer an amazing way to learn about ourselves!  For those life lessons which can’t be learned alone, we choose a life partner, birth a child, or hire an employee, and the master class begins.

Every relationship with another human being is the opportunity to flow God—our inner being, infinite intelligence, love—or not.  In difficult situations, we can close ourselves, hunker down, stay the same. Or we can open our mind, which opens our heart.

We can blame our partner, or choose to reflect on what part of our thinking could use a tuneup. Relationships invite us to become ourselves. They issure invitations to evolve, all day, every day.

Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

Image by Free-Photos from Pixabay

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