Some Days Are Diamonds

After last night’s rain, the sun came through the trees this morning, offering a forest of diamonds. That was a nice beginning.

Then came breakfast with my daughter and my fit-as-a-fiddle 91 yr. old mother. After our meal, Mac and I took my sweet mama to the airport in Charlotte. Mom has been here for six weeks. She’s a diamond, and our visit was full of diamonds. We laughed, cried, and everything in between. We accidentally burned the mashed potatoes. We dreamed out loud. We misunderstood each other (or shall I say I misunderstood her) and we figured it out. We cooked together and ate great food. She helped me get started on some emotionally difficult tasks, like facing Eric’s closet, especially his empty shoes. I can handle it now, thanks to her.

After we dropped Mom off, I met up with a high school classmate who happened to be in Charlotte. Diamonds here, diamonds there, diamonds everywhere.

THE IMPACT OF INSPIRATION

On the way home from the airport, I had an extraordinary talk with my daughter, filled with sparkling, eye-opening causes to pause. You know, there are talks, and then there are TALKS, those soulful catch-ups that start slow and build.

My best talks with MacKenzie usually start with some influential outside information. As we drove home, we listened to a TED Talk, an interview with Tesla/SpaceX genius, Elon Musk.

Elon Musk (if you don’t know him already) will blow your mind with what he has accomplished in his 45 years on Earth. Currently, he’s building a 3D tunnel network below Los Angeles to alleviate traffic congestion. Cars will travel on skates in a tube, and be able to commute from Westwood to LAX in 5 to 6 minutes, for instance.

Add to that Elon’s rocket-to-Mars program, his sustainable energy and solar roofs that power an entire house and last forever, the alternative education he created for his children, his auto-pilot Tesla cars and semi trucks, and you’re on your way to knowing a little more about Elon Musk. 

So that’s where MacKenzie and I began — with Elon and Tesla and tunnels and roofs and rockets, which reset my personal orientation, I have to say. Starting a conversation from an expanded reality has the brilliant benefit of lifting everything I’ve been thinking or feeling, everything I think I know into an entirely new context, which changes my now and therefore my future.

What followed was something I could not have predicted. We resolved parts and pieces of the last five years of relating to each other. There were chunks I didn’t know about, and when I heard her words, I stopped in my tracks to consider fully what she was saying. I absorbed. I learned. I changed in the moment.

I know, priceless. Sparkling. Full of light and love.

Look out world, I’ve got diamonds in the souls (soles) of my shoes.

 

 

 

 

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    Joann Lehmer

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    Shine bright like a diamond. Love from So. Cal.

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      Terri Crosby

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      Oh, hi there Joanne!!! It’s been way too long! Thank you for waving from So. Cal!!! love, Terri

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    Leslie Rosenstock

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    Oh my….what a beautiful blog, Terri. It moves my heart. Having those “a ha” shifting moments with our grown daughters…..fully opening, hearing and feeling THEIR truth……those moments are diamonds, indeed. Filling in the puzzle of the past. So precious. Thank you for posting it.

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      Terri Crosby

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      Thank you so much, Leslie. There was a sweet moment in my conversation with MacKenzie where I said something like, “You know, you can put me in the box of how other people think, or might think, or are able to think. But if you come over here and see how I actually think, it would help this conversation and our relationship a lot.” And she flipped. She said she had kind of forgotten who I am because of all the stuff that had been happening with Eric for the last five years. And you know, I HAD, too. I had forgotten some things about myself and when she pressed me, I began to remember them! I learn so much from her. Thanks for reading, Leslie and thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate that. love, Terri

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    shiner

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    You are a Diamond my sweet friend, they shine from soles of your feet to your soul!

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      Terri Crosby

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      Takes one to know one! Love you, Shiner. Terri

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

Terri’s book of photography combined with poetry is here! 100 Words: Small Servings of Whimsy and Wisdom to Calm the Mind and Nourish the Heart.

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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