One Simple Truth That Makes A Difference

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I could view my life as if there is a lot wrong with it. I could make a long list.

With head hanging low, I could say that my progress in certain areas has been slow or non-existent. I could believe that things are far from perfect, things are hopelessly challenging, things are uncertain.

I could call that a problem, something to worry about.

I could also believe that I am at the mercy of it all. On some days, that would be pretty easy.

What’s true?

Perception is a skill, a gift and a privilege. We are given the ability to interpret anything any way we choose. I was given the ability to see good or see trouble. So were you. This is true for every human.

This morning, I’m in a place where I see good. I like this place and I appreciate my ability to see the glass half full, the bright side of life, and how everything is truly OK.

The other day when I found myself comparing my circumstances to others, or wishing for what I don’t have, then, not so much.

A few days later, I had a flash, a lightning bolt of understanding, a lit up moment that felt bolder and clearer than usual. It’s one of those moments where you realize something you already “know”, but you get it every which way —  physically, mentally, emotionally. You get the ka-thunk of understanding, the whole ball of wax.

I saw my life as perfect for me.

I got it all the way down to my toes, in my heart, in my mind, and in every cell in my body.

I saw how the very things I sometimes consider “wrong” are the things that have helped me the most. 

And then — this flash of brilliance went away! It vanished! Of course it did! (This is always the grand joke, isn’t it?) Flashes don’t last, but they are unforgettable.

It has taken many years to understand that my life just might be the life I asked for.

 

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    Susan Gamage

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    I love it! How are you old friend? I turned 65 in July and couldn’t be happier.
    I think you have found a wonderful place to live. I hear nothing but wonderful things about your town. Still hope to visit one day!
    Love,
    Susan Peterson Gamage

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      Terri Crosby

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      Oh, Susan!!! So fabulous to hear from you! You’ll have to come out this wayand visit! I have a stunning room for you if you give me notice. We have an AirBnB room downstairs that’s all windows and looks out on the mountains. I love that you and I can still pick up right where we left off when we get together, never missing a beat SINCE COLLEGE!!!! I SO love that. You’re one of my favorite humans :—)))), you know? Love you!

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    Deborah

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    Beautiful, Bright thoughts, Terri! I know this kathunk of which you speak – it can come about a core issue, a troublesome circumstance, or as you experienced an entire life. SO freeing. I remember the one that unhooked things for me & pivoted me from trying to fix the past to embracing my now – I was trimming shrubbery in my yard in Montford, soon after I moved to Asheville. That was in 1991, & it was so changing that I’m feeling it again as I write this. Isn’t Life amazing?? Thanks for sharing … xo!

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      Terri Crosby

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      I love this example of you trimming shrubbery! Yep, that’s when it happens, when you least expect it! Love you and thanks for writing!

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    Emily Shaules

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    So true! It really is all about how you look at something as opposed to the thing itself. Great post!

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      Terri Crosby

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      Thank you, Emily! I so appreciate your feedback!

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    Devaya

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    Beautiful and brilliant, and I feel it in my body/being as you share it. (Thank you for your masterful ability to do that!)
    Love, love, love
    P.S. Thanks for letting me know this was “short and sweet” as it was a nice addition to my day I might have put off otherwise!

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    Corey fowler

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    BEAUTIFUL!!!

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
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Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

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Rippling Abs, Anyone?

Rippling Abs, Anyone?

During this strange time in history, I noticed y’all were tackling all sorts of interesting projects. I decided I needed one, too—something positive to remember the pandemic of 2020 by.
 
I decided to pay attention to something I had abandoned…
 
Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
On March 30, I got on the exercise bike and the yoga mat for the first time in a long time, and did 30 minutes each. I liked it so much that I decided to do it every day. But I fell short of that, and changed my commitment to every other day, which felt more manageable, reasonable, and doable.
 
I also get off the bike after every song, take a couple of sips of water, shake out my legs and arms for a few seconds, and get back on. This makes the bike project a reasonable proposition, too.
 
Daily walks of any length—by myself, or with my little guy, Jackson—are a fresh air bonus.
 
My recumbent exercise bike has pulleys to work my upper body while I pedal, which gets my heart rate up fast, and also helps my whole-body strength. It feels good to get up from writing, or doing a consulting session with a client, to do something physically challenging while listening to good music.
 
After only a month, I feel a sheet of muscles on the front of me I haven’t felt for a very, very long time. Goodness gracious. Who knew they were there. I’ll be posting rippling ab photos soon, I’m sure.
 
I have no idea what the scales have to say about my bike/yoga project—I don’t care. Paying attention to scales tends to send me sideways, and therefore, I’m ignoring them completely.
 
But—I LOVE the way I feel! Hang in there, everyone.
 

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Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Check Out This Troublemaker in Relationships

Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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