Nuclear Security Summit, Anyone?
Good Morning, The Netherlands!My friend in The Hague came out of her very own house a few days ago with the dog and bumped into a few armed policeman walking down her street. The policemen were in full uniform, carrying huge billy clubs, and presumably wearing bullet proof vests. In case you hadn’t heard, the 3rd Nuclear Security Summit happened March 24 and 25, 2014, in fact IN her neighborhood. For two days, 53 heads of States plus 5000 other delegates (folks of official status, reporters, etc.) and a 3000 person police force were pretty much right outside her front door.
Preparing the Residents
Which Got Me Thinking….Take my hand for a moment here. Walk with me for a little while into our relationships with each other, especially our intimate relationships. Question: What do you do in your intimate relationship that is intended to create security, but backfires? Were the residents of The Hague consulted in advance about the overwhelming presence of security forces swarming their city, barricades everywhere making it difficult to get anywhere? No, they weren’t consulted. They simply had to adjust to it, deal with it, get over it, plan around it. We do this in intimate relationships. Some of us operate like the 3rd Nuclear Summit planning team. We decide what’s going to happen, and proceed as if everyone else should cooperate without question. It’s our way or the highway. Of course she will do what I want. Of course he’ll do what I want.
A Place To Start
Heck No. Instead, Say Yes to Something That Enlivens Both Of You.First, figure out the essence of what you’re asking for, and let that send you in the direction of a better creative solution than either one of you would ever think of on your own. In the end, you both feel that you got the best deal. Here’s a really, really simple example. A husband and wife are repainting a room. One wants the room painted medium blue. The other wants the room to be really fresh looking, with light or very pale colors. So they end up painting the room white, and fill the room with blue accents. It works for both of them. Another example? The man likes to travel. The woman likes to be at home every night. So they buy an RV, they travel all over the US, and it works for both of them, ’cause she gets to be home and he gets to travel. How can the two of you together break out of your own individual boxes, and inspire your inner bluebirds of happiness to create a solution that neither of you would have thought of all by yourself? Ah, now that’s better!
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