100 Words: Teach Me, O Death, About Love

Don’t inform someone (whose loved one has died) about death. Don’t imply all is well or that time will heal. Don’t even be sorry.

Be with her, yes. But let death do the teaching.

Don’t assure a grieving woman her soulmate is still close. At first, she won’t believe you. Might punch you. Might send a gut-wrenching wail through your sorry bones.  

Instead, let the veiled one reach. Let him touch, speak to her. Let him show he’s available, still loving. She’ll fall to her knees holding her heart and understand everything.

Nature, motherhood, death. Three teachers of deepest love.

Written by Terri Crosby on . Posted in Life Changes, Relationships

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    Teria

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    Oh hon…………..

    So True……….

    SOoooo. TRUE !

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      Terri Crosby

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      I can hear you actually saying this to me. :–) Love that…

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      Ariel Marsh

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      I have never heard this expressed so beautifully and poetically. I have found this to be so true…and yes he does! Thank you for touching my heart and soul. Here is one of my favorites

      WHEN SOMEONE
      IS GOING
      THROUGH A STORM
      YOUR SILENT
      PRESENCE IS
      MORE POWERFUL
      THAN A MILLION
      EMPTY WORDS

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        Terri Crosby

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        Ariel, thank you so much for your kind comments. And I love (so much) the saying/words you offered. That’s a perfect thought, so accurate.

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    Joyce

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    Amazing. Are you sure you’re not related to Mary Oliver?

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      Terri Crosby

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      As you probably know, there is no higher compliment in my book than being “related” to Mary Oliver…

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    Lynn

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    I read this again and again.
    It’s so powerful. So real. I could deeply relate.The end is profound and “drove me to my knees” Thank you.

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      Terri Crosby

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      Thank you, Lynn. Hugs across the miles. We’ll have that phone call soon!

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    corey h fowler

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    BEAUTIFUL… LOVELY…

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Rise Up by Andra Day

What a great set of words for these oncoming days.

Rise Up

Andra Day
 
You’re broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can’t find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
And I’ll rise up
High like the waves
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
When the silence isn’t quiet
And it feels like it’s getting hard to breathe
And I know you feel like dying
But I promise we’ll take the world to its feet
And move mountains
Bring it to its feet
And move mountains
And I’ll rise up
I’ll rise like the day
I’ll rise up
I’ll rise unafraid
I’ll rise up
And I’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
All we need, all we need is hope
And for that we have each other
And for that we have each other
And we will rise
We will rise
We’ll rise, oh, oh
We’ll rise
I’ll rise up
Rise like the day
I’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
I will rise a thousand times again
And we’ll rise up
High like the waves
We’ll rise up
In spite of the ache
We’ll rise up
And we’ll do it a thousand times again
For you
For you
For you
For you
Ah, ah, ah, ah
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo
Rise Up lyrics © BMG Rights Management

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Nope, I’m not cleaning my garage. I am not organizing one single thing. I’m not planting a garden or cleaning up my yard.
 
Instead, I decided to take care of myself better. This, folks, has made all the difference for me.
 
With relatively little time and effort on my part, I feel so much better than I did a month ago.
 
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Sometimes we ask intimate partners to do for us what is actually ours to do.

We ask our partner to give us the reassurance, love or appreciation we feel is missing in ourselves, with the hope that they will give us what we’re asking for—and then we’ll feel better. They’ll take care of our problem.

But when they do give us what we’re asking for, it can never be enough, because we have insufficient context for what they’ve given. We haven’t build the inner foundation to receive it, hear it, welcome it, believe it. They try to help, but their love for us falls into our void, our black hole, our love bucket with no bottom.

As always, there’s hope. Check out the video below.

Terri Crosby. http://www.incareofrelationships.com/.

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